An astrologer shares how to charm every star sign
WORDS BY Matt Galea
Written in the star signs.
They say the reason we’re on this floating rock, hurtling through space, is to explore our relationship with ourselves and with the people we share said floating rock with. But let’s face it, trying to understand why people do the things they do can be an impossible and often mind-boggling task. Enter: astrology.
Think of astrology as a cheat sheet to each individual human. As much as I hate labels, in some instances, labels can be helpful. And that’s what astrology provides for us. A bunch of cosmic sticky labels that we can pop on people to help us understand them. It also gives us a sense of belonging.
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There’s no greater joy than meeting someone and clicking with them instantly, only to learn that you share the same sign. Astrology is like a series of cool clubs that we all have access to. Everyone is included, no one is left out, and the specific club you belong to says a lot about you and gives others an instant insight into your personality.
Astrology is incredibly addictive and it can be tempting to rely on it to solve all our problems and answer all our questions, especially in our relationships. But if we use it to dictate every single decision we make, aren’t we, ironically, losing the magic of life?
Astrology is a cosmic guide to the galaxy and the people within it that can help us navigate our relationships, both with others and with ourselves, but it should be used to inform rather than as a final decider. If you’re feeling the vibes with a date but the book tells you that you’re not compatible, then trust your gut instincts and go for it anyway. Defy the stars!
How to charm a Taurus
They enjoy the finer things in life and they’re self-sufficient enough to provide for themselves, but they’d like to have someone who can spoil them because that would mean twice as many treats. Charm Taurus by giving them a taste of that lush life they so crave. Grand gestures go a long way!
Take them to the tizziest restaurants, surprise them with snackies, leave gifts on their doorstep. Don’t worry, they won’t think you’re a creeper. They’ll be expecting this kind of energy. You need to pamper them like the kings and queens they (think they) are: cook for them, fetch things for them when they’re comfy in bed, do their grocery shopping… stuff like that.
Just don’t get too cocky, they hate that. You’ll also need to show them that you’re here to stay. While some signs enjoy the dating game, Taurus downloads dating apps in search of a reason to delete said apps. Prove to them that you’re not just going to be a partner of the week. Nothing gets a Taurus off like knowing that you’re stable and committed.
How to charm a Gemini
The twin sign has one of the worst reps of all when it comes to dating. Everyone assumes they’re shifty, two-faced love-bombers who might ghost you at any minute. They don’t mean to be flaky as hell, they just get bored very easily, especially when they’re not clicking with someone. To hold their interest, you’ll need to have a sharp intellect but also be irreverent and silly and able to take the piss out of yourself.
Impress them with your ability to talk shit for hours. They’re generally not picky on topics of convo, they can yarn about anything from celeb goss to foreign politics to childhood trauma to your favourite ice-cream flavours. Chat to them about literally anything. Show them you can carry a decent convo and make them laugh, or better yet, make sure that you laugh at all their jokes.
How to charm a Cancer
Being one of the most sensitive signs of the zodiac, Cancers only date people who are capable of handling their fragile heart with kid gloves. If you’re afraid of D&Ms, then you’ve come to the wrong place. But if you’re emotionally mature enough for this mission, then show your sensitive side from the very beginning. They need to see that you’re comfortable expressing and processing emotions. But you can’t fake it.
These intuitive creatures are almost psychic when it comes to being able to tell if someone is full of shit. Liars, fakes and hypocrites need not apply. As much as they love love, they absolutely hate the idea of dating and opening themselves up to a variety of people, many of whom won’t be worthy of their cool Cancerian presence. So make it clear that you’re not into playing games. Be direct. Be real. Be vulnerable. That’s the best way to charm a Cancer.
How to charm a Leo
Many have tried to charm one of these feisty creatures only to be left with scratches and scars to their ego. Charming a Leo is no simple feat, because they’re not easily lured. They can sense bad vibes from afar and will retreat if they’re not feeling it. Since you’re so damn lucky to be in their presence at all, you’ll need to express your gratitude by feeding their insatiable appetite for flattery.
But don’t overdo it – they can spot fake flattery from a mile off, so your compliments had better be top tier and they’d better be genuine. Do your research and learn everything there is to know about them. Do a deep-dive into their social media, stalk their LinkedIn to suss their professional achievements, and best of all, just ask them a million questions. They’ll be expecting you to fawn over them and have a built-in knowledge of who they are and what they do.
Also, it should come as no surprise that this image-focused sign is all about the visuals, so you’d better be looking sharp. I’m not saying they’re shallow, but they certainly won’t date a slob. Appearance is everything!
How to charm a Virgo
These earth sign legends are so tightly wound that they need a partner who will help them loosen up and let go… Virgos are overly cautious and have an ironclad wall around their heart to protect them from heartbreak so you’ll need to be extremely careful where you tread. One false move and you’re out. You can’t simply charm them with words; Virgos require action. They need evidence that you’re not full of shit.
Virgos pretty much believe that everyone is suss until proven otherwise. Put your money where your mouth is and show them that you’re willing to cater to their every need. If you’ve been tasked with planning the date, don’t be afraid to ask them what they’re into ahead of time. Virgos are very particular, especially when it comes to their food. They’ll appreciate it more if you forward plan, rather than hazarding a guess and taking them somewhere they’d never eat.
How to charm a Libra
They’re hopeless romantics who love the dating game, so be ready to play. They absolutely froth the idea of casual dating and sometimes they’ll start seeing someone with absolutely no intention of ever letting it get serious. To keep them interested, you’ll need to be able to match their flirty banter.
You’ll also need to be easy on the eyes, so try wearing aesthetically pleasing ’fits. Send them sweet texts to let them know you’re always thinking of them. Invite them out for dates to give them an opportunity to dress cute (not that they need one).
Lean into their materialism by giving them lil’ gifties like roses and chocolates to make them feel like a rom-com protagonist. Just don’t play hard to get, because the moment they feel anything but undying love, they’ll hit unfollow and slide into someone else’s DMs.
How to charm a Scorpio
Ever heard the term ‘resting bitch face’? Yeah, that term was coined by a Scorpio. To describe themselves. Despite having the emotional depth of the world’s oceans, they give little away to start with, so you won’t know if they’re keen on you or not.
Impress them by telling them the weirdest, wackiest facts about yourself. Avoid small talk at all costs, they find it basic and boring… Discuss the things you hate – if they share your feelings, they will be keen to have someone to bitch to. Nothing bonds a Scorpio to another human being like the mutual hatred of another human being.
And if that doesn’t work, just tell them you have a rose quartz crystal in your pocket. If the energy from the stone isn’t enough to draw them in, at least they’ll be impressed that you even have a crystal, and that you know which one is the love stone!
How to charm a Sagittarius
They’re looking for someone who will be an ongoing good time. If you can show them that you’re a hoot and a half and exude positive energy, they’ll be keen to give it a go. Sagittarians aren’t shallow at all, so even if you’re an absolute 10, this alone won’t be enough to impress them. The feature they’re most attracted to in another person is the mind.
… They’re basically auditioning you to be their travel buddy so you’ll need to show that you can keep them entertained on the many flights you’ll soon be taking. They’re also major pet people and will pretty much spend time with anyone who owns a dog, so if you have one, you’re immediately in. If not, borrow a friend’s dog to lure the Sag to you.
How to charm a Capricorn
You’ve really got your work cut out for ya here because Capricorns are tough ones to crack. You might even say they’re the toughest sign to get through to. And typical methods like compliments in the DMs and sweet date invites won’t work on this unyielding sign – you’ll need to impress the hell out of them.
They’re so busy killing it in their career, they generally don’t have time to date, so if you want them to fit you into their busy schedule, you’ll have to show them that you’re as ambitious and powerful as they are. Just be authentic. They can sense inauthenticity, and it’s a major turn-off for them. But be warned, you’ll need patience and perseverance, because it’ll take some time to prove to them that their life will be better with you in it. If you try to rush them into anything, they’ll lose interest immediately.
How to charm a Aquarius
Be warned, you will most definitely have some competition. You can’t be this cool and unconventional without having folks absolutely swooning over you. But Aquarians don’t care for being worshipped and flattered, they seek genuine connections, so you’ll need to show them you can provide just that, and that you’re not after them because they have a killer aesthetic.
When you speak to them, ditch shallow topics and small talk for deep convos about the state of our planet. Wow them with how much you care for the environment and other humans. Be a leader rather than a follower. They’ll be spellbound.
How to charm a Pisces
They have a deep need to feel needed, so allow them to look after you. Be completely open and honest with them, tell them every drama you’ve got going on, from a tiff with your boss to a difficult level on your video game that you can’t unlock. They will make it their mission to help you solve these problems and will enjoy doing so.
It actually doesn’t take much to charm a Pisces. They’re deeply romantic, so partake in PDAs, talk about what you want in a relationship, take them on dates that’ll leave them breathless. Just be as sweet and humble as possible. They’ve been burned so many times by jackasses, all they want is someone who isn’t a dick, so just don’t be one and you’re good.
This is an edited extract from How To Spot The (Star) Signs by Matt Galea, out now.
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